Finding a Spiritual Director

The affiliated Spiritual Directors listed below have all been trained in a qualified Spiritual Direction Training program. These individuals have committed to regular peer supervision, continuing education and one-on-one supervision. Their affiliation with Kavanna House is based upon our personal knowledge of them or from a referral from someone we know and trust. We suggest that you carefully read the biographies and notice the types of people the director primarily works with as you discern who to contact.

Our desire is to affiliate Kavanna House with a diverse group of Spiritual Directors so that no matter who you are, what your spirituality entails or where you find yourself in your spiritual journey.

We offer these names to you as a service; however, once you choose to contact any given director, your connection with them is outside of the Kavanna House purview as these individuals are not agents or employees of Kavanna House.

We hope that you are able to find the right fit for you at this point in your spiritual journey.

Questions to Ask A Prospective Spiritual Director
Adapted from https://anamcara.com/11-questions-to-ask-a-prospective-spiritual-director/

1. What kind of training did you undertake to become a spiritual director? This question helps you understand the background and training of your director. You may be more comfortable with a director who has gone through an accredited program or a supervised practicum in spiritual direction.

2. How long have you been giving spiritual direction? You can ask this question in terms of years, or in terms of hours. Some directors may have been giving direction for years, but have only had one or two directees during that time. Others may not have been giving direction for as long, but have a number of directees, meaning that they have a greater total hours of experience. While the numbers themselves may not be important to you, understanding the level of direct experience your director has in the practice of direction is helpful to know.

3. Do you have a spiritual director? Someone who practices spiritual direction definitely understands the value of having a spiritual director as they journey with God. Kavanna House believes that spiritual directors should, when possible, be in direction themselves as they care for their own spiritual lives.

4. Do you have a supervisor or a peer group? This is an extremely important question to ask. One of the ways that a spiritual director cares for you and tends your soul is to actively seek accountability and supervision of peers or those in spiritual authority. This process helps your director grow and allows them to seek consultation and wisdom.

5. What’s your guiding image of spiritual direction? Each director holds one or more images of what the spiritual direction relationship is to her or him. Whether this is as a companion, mentor, guide, friend or any other image, knowing what guides them in their practice of direction will help you know if this director fits well with your desires for the spiritual direction relationship.

6. What has your journey with God been like? Some people might feel that this is too personal a question to ask a spiritual director; however, this is someone with whom you’ll be sharing one of the most intimate areas of your life—your spiritual journey. Feel free to ask them about their journey with God. Not only will this help establish relationship, you’ll learn a lot about your director’s background, assumptions about God, and spiritual history.

7. What is your experience tending your own life of prayer, contemplation, and meditation? Again, this seems like a deeply personal question, but it’s one that your director will be asking you on a regular basis. Learning more about your director’s practices will help you understand if this person is a good match for you.

8. What kind of on-going education or enrichment in spiritual direction are you undertaking? The spiritual journey is never static—neither is the practice of spiritual direction. It’s important to know what your director is doing to continue learning and growing, placing him or herself under a teacher to grow in the practice of spiritual direction.

9. What kind of agreement will we establish between us in the on-going spiritual direction relationship? This can sometimes seem like “just paperwork” but a formal agreement helps you to feel safe and protected within the direction relationship. This agreement outlines the expectations for the director and directee, including meeting times, payment terms, and the expectation of confidentiality.

10. Do you charge for spiritual direction? If so, how much? This last question sometimes gets taken for granted. Some spiritual directors wouldn’t think of charging for direction, and others have established a private practice in which they charge a specific amount per session or per hour. Other directors charge on a sliding scale of donation. If payment is a hardship, speak candidly with a potential spiritual director about that. In some cases, even paying a minimal amount toward direction helps you value the time that you are dedicating to your spiritual growth and understand the benefit of meeting with a director.

Nita Landis

I have sensed Love’s call to spiritual direction through awareness that it is a space where my deep gladness meets one of the world’s deep hungers. (Thank you, Frederick Buechner, for the eloquent definition of vocation!) Listening to others share their stories and together “dusting for the fingerprints of God” (Dave Nixon) energizes me. Those I journey with express regular gratitude for being deeply heard and held in loving attention. I also offer one-on-one formational prayer (inner healing work).

My journey out of the legalistic religious context of my childhood into the wide expanse of grace and belovedness, along with my personal experience of recovering from two episodes of clinical depression and anxiety, flavor my spiritual direction and healing care practice.

I meet with people via Zoom video calls and phone calls and look forward to again meeting with people in person at my home in Lancaster when the COVID-19 coast is clear. I received my training in spiritual direction through Sustainable Faith (completed 2016) and in formational prayer through Ashland Theological Seminary (completed 2015) and have pursued ongoing education in both arenas. My husband Karl serves as lead pastor of Mount Joy Mennonite Church, and our three children are married and living in Florida, Colorado, and Hawaii. The giggles and grins of our three young granddaughters keep our hearts full.

I offer a complimentary first session to new directees.
Judy Marley

I delight in journeying with people as a spiritual companion. After years in both church and nonprofit ministry, I discovered that serving as a spiritual director meets my desire to listen lovingly and deeply to people, with God. A painful season filled with change and loss led me to search for fresh spiritual practices and companions for the journey. Learning how to be with God and really receive God’s love for me has transformed my life. By God’s goodness, I have experienced flourishing even in the desert and blooming in the wilderness. My desire is to hold space for the ups and downs of the human experience, to listen deeply to people and to Spirit, to ask questions that are open and invitational, and to see people experience true freedom, wholeness, and love. I welcome your wrestling, fears, and uncertainty. I am a soft and steady place for you as you process and as we listen together to the movement of Love.

I completed my spiritual direction training through the Sustainable Faith School of Spiritual Direction, and I also hold a practitioner certification in the Enneagram. I meet with people over Zoom and the phone, and look forward to meeting in person again once that is possible. I live in Lancaster, PA, with my husband John, and some of my favorite things include soaking up beauty on an outdoor adventure, sinking into a good book, or engaging in meaningful conversations around a table of delicious food.

I offer a complimentary first session to new directees.
Nicole Mills

Several years ago, amidst the confusion and pain of traveling through a spiritual wilderness, I began to experience God and myself through a different lens. During that agonizing and transformative period, I discovered the mystery of God and my true belovedness, a discovery which continues to this day. As a spiritual director, I hold space for people to do the same. I invite directees to unearth the pain and treasure of their story, to sit in the tension and the questions, all while discovering greater freedom, wholeness, God and their own belovedness.

In addition to being a spiritual director, I am also an oncology nurse, cancer survivor, nerd, and contemplative. My real knowledge (of God, myself and the world) has come through the pain, wonder and holiness of each of the previously listed roles, but I also graduated from Majestic Way Elementary School, UC Davis and Johns Hopkins University.

I have a secret desire to be a nun or a double-dutch jump rope champion. Not being Catholic or able to jump two ropes poses significant hurdles, however, I remain hopeful. I am single, have a plethora of books, and hold great love for redwood trees, Kavanna House, the mystery of God, and horses (in no particular order). I live with my dog, Pax, and I love him too.

I offer spiritual direction over Zoom or Facetime. Please contact me if you sense a desire or nudge to explore direction together. I would love to hear your story.
Kristin Peterman

The practice of spiritual direction is regularly reflecting on our individual journey, curiosity about the particular threads that are making themselves known, as well as stepping back to notice the bigger picture. Each person’s spiritual journey weaves a completely different masterpiece. And spiritual direction can be helpful to learn how to notice, verbalize and appreciate the All of it.

I started my expedition into spiritual direction in 2015 when I decided to participate in Sustainable Faith’s training to help me develop my listening and caring skills. It taught me how to let go of my narrative, to lean into someone else’s story and how to be a kind-of mirror that they needed for self-discovery. The two years of training along with exploring different types of pathways to Connection, spiritual practices, the Enneagram and formational prayer allows me to be grounded in my own faith as I companion alongside others on their faith journey.

My hope is to be open to each person’s experience, language, and practices. My personal experience, language and practices have been steeped in Christianity, broken open through deconstruction and tends to gravitate towards solitude, beauty, resurrection, and creative intuition. I have been dating my nature-loving husband for almost 35 years. My creative daughter and son-in-law live in New Mexico with our two grand fur-babies.

Spiritual direction sessions are currently available through Zoom and phone. When the pandemic is clear, I also have a meeting space in my home in York, Pennsylvania.

I offer a complimentary first session to new directees.
Vicki Scheib

Vicki’s desire is to help pastors and leaders discover that life with God is a well of refreshment and that their ministry can proceed from their being rather than solely from doing. In spiritual direction, her nondirective approach facilitates the deepening of both self-awareness and God-awareness. She has 12 years of experience in church leadership, a D.Min. in Leadership and Spiritual Formation, and is an instructor with Sustainable Faith’s School of Spiritual Direction. She specializes in spiritual formation and soul care, life transitions, stages of faith, faith deconstruction, and Ignatian spirituality and discernment. She also offers both peer and 1:1 supervision. At this time, she solely meets with people on Zoom.
Deb Williams

I knew God’s work and involvement in my life as a young girl. Throughout my years, I’ve been drawn into deeper intimacy with Him, primarily as a result of pain in my life. Following a season of loss, I sensed God inviting me towards spiritual direction and I began to understand what ‘being’ with God meant, compared to years of ‘doing’ for Him. My love of walking with people on their spiritual journey made becoming a spiritual director a ‘logical’ next step. I received my training through Sustainable Faith.

I am a registered nurse with over 35 years’ experience, a former pastor’s wife of 9 years and the mom of three grown daughters, I am the Spiritual Formation Coordinator at my church. I thoroughly enjoy working with women of all ages, particularly young women. I also enjoy sitting with leaders, especially those in ministry. I love to sit with folks as they explore their relationship with God and all that intersects with it such as other relationships, past experiences, family, and personality style. My life has been impacted by loss and grief and I have come to treasure the gifts that God gives during these seasons. I value questions because I still hold ones myself. I feel privileged to be invited into someone’s life and and hear their heart. I want my directees to know they are valued, respected, and loved for who God has made them to be. I desire to create a space to be heard, with and without words.

I am still madly in love with John, my husband of 36 years. I have three daughters, two sons-in-law and 3+ granddaughters to whom I am Nana, a name I love! I enjoy a good book, nature, a good movie, games and a great cup of coffee!

I offer spiritual direction in person and via Zoom, Google Meet or FaceTime.